Knowing signs it’s time to seek therapy or not can be a very nerve wracking time. It is often a new experience and also, you don’t want to feel like you are weak or unusual in some way. The good news is you are neither of these things. Many people seek therapy, both those who are in need of emotional and mental support but also just general people who want to de-stress or feel more positively about life after a hard time. John, the founder of Battle of Mind & Seek A Therapy often speaks openly about having seen therapists got emotional and mental health purposes and saw just how beneficial it was to his life working with professional therapists and now lives a much happier life than he did six years ago when he first sought help.
We have compiled a short list of factors to help you think, maybe it’s time to Seek Therapy below : –
Signs It’s Time To Seek Therapy
- Feeling sad, angry or otherwise “not yourself.”
Are you noticing that you are feeling sad, angry or not your usual self more often than you would like? This can be a sign that you are possibly suffering from a mental health problem such as depression, stress or anxiety. Anger and frustration come to the surface when things in life have not gone as suspected and speaking to a therapist can aid in helping to deal with these disappointments, hurts or to identify why you are feeling sad more often and then, work on ways to manage these feelings.
Sometimes, you are wanting to spend less time with your from family and friends, eating or sleeping more/less than usual. By speaking to a therapist you can stop your feelings from escalating and becoming more serious problems and affecting your quality of life.
If these feelings escalate to the point that you question whether life is worth living or you have thoughts of death or suicide, reach out for help right away. Ring 111 if in the UK or speak to your GP.
- Abusing drugs, alcohol, food or sex to cope.
Many people use alcohol to de-stress after a long week at work, but when you start to turn to excessive alcohol consumption, drugs, sex or eating more to cope and, you are finding it difficult to control these learnt habits, it is a sign that you may be struggling with a compulsive or addictive behaviour that requires treatment from a specialist.
- You’ve lost someone or something important to you.
One of life’s most difficult challenges can be when we lose someone dear to us. This can be through death,
when someone dear to us is no longer here or when a relationship ends or becomes difficult. The emotions that arise with both these situations are hard and often, even people who seem to be dealing with these difficult circumstances aren’t and require some help and advice from a therapist.
- Having A Traumatic Experience.
You may have suffered from a traumatic experience in your life, many of us do, but not all of us manage to deal with these experiences in the most effective way. Sometimes, a traumatic experience can be work related, maybe you have experienced work place bullying, or maybe you lost your job to support your family or maybe, you have been diagnosed with a chronic illness. Possibly even, maybe you were a victim of a serious crime. Or alternatively, maybe your trauma was relating to a history of abuse, neglect or childhood trauma that you have found ways to manage through adulthood to survive but not completely live happily. A therapist will help you to work through your suppressed emotions, thoughts and memories whatever your traumatic experience might be. The earlier you talk to someone, the faster you can learn new strategies and perspectives on ways of coping.
- You can’t do the things you like to do.
Grieving can be a long and tricky process to endure alone and having a professional that cares on hand can help ease some of this burden you are going through. Not everyone needs counselling during these times but there are many different types of therapy. Some will click with your way of thinking better than others and it is worth exploring just what options are available. Some may even relate to the things you like doing like ‘art therapy’, ‘laughter classes’, ‘meditation/mindfulness’ and spiritual awareness, ‘talking therapy’ if you are a social person or even ‘music therapy’ for the more musical among us. There are so many options available that we created Seek A Therapy, a website dedicated to helping you discover different therapies available in your locality.
- Difficult life transitions.
In life, as already mentioned, we all go through difficult life situations, moving to a new city, a divorce or experiencing death or loss of money. When difficulties such as these arise you should consider speaking to a therapist if the experience still continues to bother you.
- Relationship problems
If your relationship is no longer fulfilling and feel communications have broken down with your significant other, seeking couple counselling can sometimes be helpful in getting your relationship back on track or, sometimes doing what is best for all who are involved…
- Obsessive or compulsive behaviors.
Do you find yourself spending too much time double checking to make sure you turn off the stove, worrying too much about washing your hands or, continuing to repeat something so often that it causes you bother or your life to feel less fulfilling it could be extremely beneficial to speak to a therapist in order to get your life back on track.
- You always beat yourself up.
Do you find yourself talking negatively to yourself? Do you blame yourself for anything that goes wrong maybe at work, or at home?
Do you always feel not good enough? Do you feel you lack the motivation to make your life better? Don’t worry, seeking a therapy such as life coaching, counselling, mindfulness, CBT or Hypnotherapy can all aid in helping you to take more care of your thoughts and put yourself back where you belong. In a life where you see just how amazing you are!
If after reading this list of signs it’s time to seek therapy you identifying with some of them then maybe you should start looking into therapy. There is no shame in getting therapy, the most successful people on the planet have been involved with therapy and therapists and it can be a completely uplifting and enjoyable experience once you have released your burden with someone else who cares about helping you and is trained in how to deal with difficult life experiences.
Please, speak to your GP and/or a mental health charity, use SeekATherapy.com and/or discover self help strategies.
You don’t need to suffer in silence anymore, it is time for you to take back control of your life and feel uplifted once more.